In memory of my friendship

It is an old story of not being grateful for what we have until we lose it, of not being conscious of friends until we are lonely.

 

Yao was my best friend during the three years in Shanxi Experimental Secondary School. As one who was from another city, I did not have a sense of belonging until Yao took an initiative to step into my life. She was a sensitive and kind girl and treated me as well as, my mother. I am not exaggerating. At that time, I did not pay much attention to my health. Instead of going home to have dinner, she went to the canteen in school together with me in order to help me form a healthy habit of diet. However, I did not pay her back. Yao was popular in our school and had very good interpersonal relationship. Boys liked her and she indeed had special relationship with several boys. I though she did not work hard and only wanted to marry a rich man and then enjoyed her life, which I looked down upon. I was too young to understand her. The result was that I did many things that hurt her deeply. Now I regret what I did, but it is late already.

 

Before Yao, I had another friend Siqun. Different from Yao, she was passionate and hard working. She cared about friends much and gave me a hand many times when I turned to her for help. At that time, I read many books about spiritual explosion. I thought that we should treat everyone with the same kindness no matter what they did to us. One day, after watching a movie on friendship, she asked me whether she was very important to me. Can you guess what I said at that time? Without much thought, I said no, everyone was the same to me. As a friend, I did not regard her as someone special. What I said also, hurt her deeply. No wander I saw big disappointment in her eyes, which I will remember in my lifetime.

 

Of course, besides these regrets, there is much precious memory between my friends and me. Actually, I have never stopped even a moment missing my friends in China since I came to Singapore. The days, months, years we went through together often appear in my mind as vividly as all of that happened yesterday. The friends I have either in Shanxi Experimental Secondary School or in Xiangya Medical College are treasures from which I can always find courage to go on with my life. Although life is unpredictable, one thing I can guarantee is that they are always there no matter what become of me. They are ones I can turn to especially I have problems. Anyway, what one experiences today will become the memory of tomorrow. What I can do is to appreciate what I have now.