Since our last week’s topic is family and marriage, I would like to share my point of view on marriage. And the most significant question is “Why should we get married?” As for me, there are only four rational reasons to get married.
1. To have babies. Only marriage can legalize giving birth to a baby. As a result, according to law in China, I have to get married before a baby’s coming. However, if I do not want a baby then or I migrate to a country where you needn’t get married to get a baby, I do not have to get married.
2. To get benefits from policies. As is known to all, the government or corporations always give benefits to married couples, such as reducing the tax, privileges when distributing houses. However, if I have enough money, and do not care about the tiny benefits, I do not have to get married.
3. To get the girl’s money. If I get married to a wealthy girl, I might get a sum of money when we divorce just because we were husband and wife before. This may be the quickest way to make money. However, this is so immoral to me and it is hard to find such a wealthy girl to get married. And what if I have more money than her? I will be her target. Therefore, I do not have to get married.
4. To have a wedding. Wedding is almost every girl’s dream, and it is also a way to make money (by receiving red bags) in China. If either of the couple’s parents is somebody in the town, this couple can even earn an apartment just by holding a wedding. This reason sounds delicious. However, I am not a sociable person, and I hate meeting a number of strangers, so I can give up the red bags.
Oops, I do not have to get married.
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Actually, I was shocked by your blog. I seems that you are completely cold-blooded. Looking at the reason you listed for getting married, I find all of them concern about MONEY!(except the first one, though the second one is about policy, it still ends up with issues concerning money. If you are considering money, you may discuss your career plan. Personally I have never linked a happy marriage with money, other wise, it will not be a happy marriage but utility instead! For me, marriage is the extended from genuine relationship. For each other, their partner can not be replaced by other people. It is a commitment to their beloved ones, the guarantee or their happiness and a responsbility that most mature adults should learn to shoulder.
ReplyDeleteTo tell the truth, I am astonished by your thought of marriage. Maybe nowadays regarding marriage as trust and love from the opposite gender one is somehow "immature" and dangerous, which means you may be deeply hurt, going after marriage with that thought. So many people treat marriage as trademark to reach their goal. However, why do we have to be influenced by those people? I am not "preaching" morally, you know. I believe we can have something which is as touching as what our ancestors once described, as long as we are willing to believe it and then give it.
ReplyDeleteThroughout your blog, I sensed the unwillingness to get married. Yet the four reasons are too rational. When it comes to emotional life, I think human beings should not consider too much about money and something like that. Logic does not work in this situation. The base of marriage is that both of them are in love with each other. Getting married only for money is bad. However, I know this is a temporary opinion. As the time goes on, I believe you will change. When you meet a girl you really like, I think you will want to be with her regardless of money. Let’s see what will happen after three or four years.
ReplyDeleteI can only agree with you on the fourth point. Wedding may be the one-toome-only thi ng in your life, once and for all. So I want to have a marvellous wedding for my own marrige. I will try my best to find a most romantic place, inviting the close friends of mine and, of course, my friends to witness my joint with my chosen one. We will have a fantastic meal after wedding, which is important, too. I believe the reason for me to get married is she must be the one exactly right for me. I always believe there is my another half out there waiting for me to find her. If someday I find this lady and it is the time for me to settle down and my famile like her, I will get maried with all the best wishes.
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